Monday, July 4, 2011

Vulnerability - In more ways than one

I found this video in the last week, and it seems to echo many themes running around on the equine blogosphere of late.

It's long, but worth your time.

8 comments:

Dan and Betty Cooksey said...

That was really good. It definitely can apply to the way we relate to our horses. Perhaps we can accept and enjoy their imperfections/bad days as part of who they are. And accept and enjoy our imperfections/bad days as part of who we are - and that's enough.

Thanks for sharing.

Dan

Anonymous said...

Hi, it's me Maia. Fear and the need for perfection, now is definitely the recipe for frustration not only with our horses, but also with our lives.

Thank you for posting this.

Laughing Orca Ranch said...

Winter,
I must admit, when I saw the title of your post and this video, I shied away....didn't want to deal with that topic. No way.
And how ironic...that's just what she talks about, how we humans tend to be on guard with our tender emotions, our vulnerability.

I got so much out of her talk and it made me think more deeply about why I stopped being open about my feelings regarding my horse journey. It was vulnerability.

Somewhere along the line, I started thinking that my honesty and my sharing of feelings were weak and too sensitive. Wearing my heart on my sleeve was just opening myself up to being picked on by bullies. I needed to put my guard up and protect myself from the meanies of the world.

I had many more people reading my blog and commenting back when I shared all, because I was authentic, open and honest. I see that now.
But I received a few negative criticisms and jabs(probably from jealousy, I realize now), but it shut down my heart and caused me to build a wall, which denied me connections and the ability to reveal my emotions, even to myself, and in response, to not even be able to understand what I was going through, because I wrapped it all up in anger, disappointment and fear.
Which as we all know, is no way to move forward in life or to live fully and joyfully.

It wasn't until I started removing the bricks from my wall, and allowed myself to reveal my vulnerability, even just a little bit, that I was finally able to move forward and begin living again.

I really like that gal and her honesty.....and yes, vulnerability.

Six long years of tedious research and a trip to her wise therapist and she finally learned that the answers to her questions and research, were living within herself all along.

Thanks for sharing,
~Lisa

Fetlock said...

Hey Winter, I tried to post this video as well at the end of my post about vulnerability...I must not have done it correctly. I think the more people watch it, the better (I also posted it on Facebook).

It's an awesome video. And I know exactly what Lisa's talking about here, too.

Fragrant Liar said...

Hey, I posted about this too! Of course, my post conveys a thoroughly analytic and scientific understanding of the concept. Of course. So if there's anything you don't comprende about this, just come see me.

Heh.

xo
Thanks for turning me on to this.

Pinzgauer said...

This is wonderful. I'm working so hard to analyze why I am feeling fear of riding, and turning that into words that make sense, and wow.... she really said it all!

Grey Horse Matters said...

Good video. Thanks for posting it for everyone.

redhorse said...

I've noticed a lot of bloggers lately with injuries and illnesses, and issues to work through. So, it's always good to read when someone (like Lisa) works through it and rides again. It can help some of us out here keep going on our own journeys.

I recently started riding again, after 3 1/2 years, I even took my big green scary horse on a couple of trail rides. It was awesome, and also amazing how much you can age in 3 years. :) I also had help, and I probably couldn't have done it alone. Sigh.

I wish everyone else the best, and sometimes I wish we could all meet somewhere for a big trail ride. I bet we'd have a lot of laughs.